Rethinking Boundaries at Home
What if, instead of setting rules for our kids, we invited them to help make them? Could “family agreements” replace power struggles with trust, laughter, and real teamwork? If you’ve ever tried co-creating boundaries at home, what surprising shifts did you notice—in their behavior, in your connection, or in the overall vibe of the house?
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Love this question! I have always been amazed at how a child can say “No” to almost everything… It’s adorable… those pouty lips… that determined little voice… but it’s also a message, "I don’t want to be ordered around"… They have a little personality of their own… and it’s such a joy to watch it bloom.
When Grace was in her “No” stage… I honestly found it both hilarious and a tad bit exhausting… But the moment I gave her a choice instead of a command… her whole response shifted… Sometimes she even came up with a third option… her own idea… That was the magic moment for me… realising 'She was Herself!'… she knew what she wanted… and she wasn’t afraid to say it…
The funny thing… When she made her own rules or timetable… she stuck to them… I never had to chase or nag… And if she forgot something and I reminded her… she would just say… Oh yes… I forgot… with no fuss at all…
It made me realise… when children help shape their own boundaries… they don’t just follow them… They Own Them… and that changes everything.